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So you might wonder why I decided to do a hug experiment in our family. Honestly, I wanted to see if it would make a difference in our sleeping habits, our overall moods and stress levels, and our kindness towards one another.
And while with the COVID-19 rampaging in our country, it is not something we can really engage in with strangers, hence the reason I did a family only hug experiment!
The results? You’ll have to read on for that. But first, I want to give you some of the scientific reasoning behind the hug experiment.
Virginia Satir, a family therapist said once: “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”
This seems like a lot, though I read this in an email one day and thought, “this is my goal for my family!”
I get excited about these kinds of ideas, and it seemed like a great goal to reach for with our small children. Teach them young, you know?
Here is what science says about hugs: hugs are good for you because they are linked to physical and mental/emotional health in your bodies. Let me explain a little more in the following sections.
While the Bible doesn’t talk as much about hugging as it does kissing, I kind of see it at the same. Embrace one another, love one another, along those lines.
It is important to us as a family to be loving and peaceful, and hugs help us with behavioral conflict, to offer compassion and empathy, and to comfort and love each other.
So was the overall goal of our hug experiment.
Now we get to the fun part: the actual hug experiment.
If I could get my children to hug or be hugged 12 times a day, I believe I would see measurable differences in how we acted, slept, and interacted with each other.
As a SAHM with 3 small children, a mom will try anything for more peace and good-naturedness around her home. Amiright?
I used this chart that I quickly created with PowerPoint. Then I taped it on our wall and did my best to record all the hugs in a day for each person.
It included hugs they received and gave in one little neat box. I just used tick marks to keep the process simple, and dates all of the tops of the boxes to keep track of which day it was.
I decided to do 3 weeks, or 21 days (since new habits take at least 21 days to develop/form) to see if the experiment would stick and to see if I found a difference on certain days of the week or as time went on.
Here is a photo of our completed chart – plus some notes on the experiment.
I was hoping that hugging more would decrease stress levels, keep the kids calm, and simply help them act, sleep, and eat better.
Well, I should have known better.
On the up-side, I think that my hubby and I are enjoying the benefits fo less stress and more restful sleep: for the most part.
Next time, I need to make sure that my husband gets exclusive hugs from me. The kids were really good about giving Dad hugs when he came home from work, and we tried to be more intentional as well.
My husband’s totals were the lowest; mostly because he wasn’t around much during the weekdays to experience the love the rest of us were giving and receiving. His weekends were more affectionate with extra hugs.
I’m not saying it made our marriage that much more amazing, but it sure didn’t hurt it!
Just in case you read nothing else of this hug experiment post, here is the rundown of the whole thing.
Pros
Cons
I can say that I feel we are more apt to hug each other now, whether someone is happy or sad, whether they need to apologize or just snuggle. It is my deepest hope that we will continue to foster and be the kind of family that “hugs”!
Obviously, hugs can’t hurt us, and this hug experiment just revealed that we really do like hugs, and should implement them more often.
Speaking for myself, I like to make sure that each one of my kids has at least 1-3 hugs from me a day. It takes a thinking shift (and an intentional commitment as well) to implement it more and to be consistent (as my hug experiment results revealed we weren’t the best at).
However, I will especially be noticing our need for hugs more, especially in my children. And my husband also loves these hugs, so it really helps our marriage relationship, too. It’s all a work in progress, of course.
Combine those benefits with the scientific benefits listed earlier, and there is simply no reason to hold back hugs any more in your family!
Conduct a hug experiment for yourself, or post a reminder around your house to incite the warm, loving, and healing touch in your family.
Download a FREE copy of my HUG EXPERIMENT SHEET! to try for yourself!
Download FREE 4 Pretty printables about hugs for you to hang as a reminder!
How do you think hugs would help your family?
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