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Now here’s the truth. There are days in which I feel like I have been so wronged by my husband. He didn’t do this or wouldn’t listen to my idea about that or failed to read my mind (what is this atrocity???) when I wanted him to.
The frustration I feel about some of these situations can be can atrocious in itself. Most times, my husband has no idea that he did something wrong. When he does know, he is usually instantly and truly sorry for whatever “crime” he committed.
You think I’m talking about something awful, something that he had coming to him for a long time, something to make his life MISERABLE.
I’m not.
The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. –Proverbs 31:11*
So what do I mean? I didn’t put that verse there just for reference. It’s a command from God saying I must bring my husband GOOD all the days of my life.
No. Matter. What.
So you think your husband needs to get what he deserves? Me, too.
And guess what? That’s part of my vocation. I have to pray for him, encourage him in his relationship with
Christ, and let him know I am there to push him towards his Heavenly goal. Some of our favorite conversations are the ones in which we discuss what Heaven might be like. That is my strongest desire: that my husband will dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of his everlasting life.
He is one of the hardest working people I know. A lot of people, including me, ask him for a lot of things. It sucks because then he feels guilty for not being able to give of himself to everyone; he has to pick and choose. We all know work isn’t fun at times, but there is a joy that can come from working with purpose. I really think my husband deserves to experiences some of that joy.
One of the super cool things about being married is sharing your dreams together. My husband dreams big, and I dream even bigger. Then comes the hard part: figuring out how to live your dreams together. When we work to try to make those dreams a reality, it is so rewarding for our marriage. It would be so cool to see my husband live out some of his lifelong dreams.
My husband was a bachelor for many years. I never dated anyone (not officially) before I met him. But that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t deserve a loving wife and children. We were made for love (check out this awesome booklet of John Paul II’s Theology of the Body!) and everyone deserves to receive love in their lifetime. Pure, unrestrained, accepting love. It’s partly my job to give him that as well as I am able. The other part is for him to accept our Heavenly Father’s love.
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I would say it’s up to me to help him achieve all of these things.
But doing so would be blasphemy.
It’s the power of Christ within us, granting us graces to better love and serve one another in marriage.
I may deserve certain things in life and marriage, but so does my husband. I pray for GOOD things for him because it is commanded of me. I encourage him, love him, and help provide for his physical needs. Because that much, he deserves.
What does your husband deserve? Why do you wish those things?
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things –1 Corinthians 13:7*
Mother Mary, pray for us.
St. Joseph, pray for us.
*taken from this site.
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